Anyone who has ever achieved success will tell you there’s no real secret! It finally comes down to who is willing to work the hardest.
I have learned that there are 3 areas in which you must focus your hard work:
1) The Basic Skills associated with your choice of vehicle to advance yourself. ie: if you choose to be a hair dresser, become THE BEST! Which means you must find a way, over time, to study with the best. Learn EVERYTHING you can about every hair style possible, and master every cut from every generation!
2) Personal Growth is absolutely necessary! This area of development focuses on things like Advanced Mindset, Emotional Maturity, Leadership, Higher Level Management Skills, Thinking Patterns, and more. There’s only one way to advance yourself: ADVANCE YOURSELF!
3) People Skills will be the Final Test to see how bad you really want to succeed, and will determine whether you go ALL THE WAY TO THE TOP, or fall short of your total potential. Learn to Master the Art of Understanding People, Learning to Speak the Language of their Need, and Helping them to get what THEY want. In turn, you will get what YOU want!
Self Mastery is THE Door that either opens or closes you to the success you desire. Work harder on YOU than you do anything or anyone else…and success will be yours.
“Your vibe attracts your tribe!” -Nate
I had 2 instances this week with clients I coach who said, “I can’t get anyone to say yes to my product (or service). I don’t think people like it. It’s not working.” Then I began to remind them of all the other people having success with the exact same product or service.
Here’s what I know: In order to be successful in anything in life it requires you to step up your game and change something (perhaps many things) about yourself.
Some things you may need to improve:
3) People Skills
4) Emotional Maturity
These are just a few. And under these Groups are numerous sub-groups we could explore.
I was told by a mentor one time, “Nate, work harder on yourself than you do anyone or anything else, and THEN you will become uncommonly successful.” I took that challenge, and it has lead me to develop a Multi Million Dollar Empire comprising 3 businesses, a non-profit, several pieces of real estate, and total lifestyle & time freedom.
When I first began developing my empire, my vibe said, “I think I’m amazing and you should work with me.” My ego score was far too high.
Now my vibe says, “My name’s Nate. Tell me about you? What’s your dream? How may I add value to your life?” I place high value on others and seek to add value to their lives.
The law of attraction isn’t mystical or metaphysical. It simply means that people are either attracted to the person you’ve become or not. And based on the level of attraction or lack thereof, they will decide whether a business relationship with you holds value for them or not.
If you are deciding to build a great business of any kind, your success will largely depend on how far you are willing to grow yourself in all facets of your being.
Your level of growth will be your “Vibe”! Happy Growing!!
5 D’s to Your Life Design is a 5 Part Audio Series.
Part 1 is entitled “Discover”. Nate will lead you through a series of thought provoking questions that will challenge you to dig deep into your life on a journey of Discovery. This is Step 1 in the process of Designing a Successful Life.
Enjoy Part 1 of the 5 D’s to Your Life design: Discover
I have learned that most people don’t want to be confronted with the truest success principles in life.
The reason? It requires us to change.
The idea of “Responsibility” is one that has been ringing in my heart and head recently. Here are a few of my thoughts on the matter:
PASS THE BUCK vs THE BUCK STOPS HERE
Are you the gal or guy whose problems in life are always something or someone else’s fault? Or are you the REAL Man or Woman who takes responsibility for exactly where you are in life at this moment.
One of my favorite quotes is: “We arrive as the people that we are by the choices that we make.” It is a true statement.
We don’t like to think that we are the reason for our poor economic state, our marital issues, how we ended up so fat, or why our kids turn out the way they do. And while there may extenuating circumstances, more often than not there’s a bit of a “blame game” that’s being played.
Take a giant leap in your personal development: own your status. Look deeply into your life-situation and ask questions: “What could I have done differenctly?” “Was there a different or better choice I could have made from the start?” “Did I take time to get 100% of the information before I made critical decisions?” Taking the time to ask these types of questions will help you to more honestly ascertain the “You” you’ve become, AND help you to make better choices in the future.
THE WORST THING ABOUT SUCCESS IS A LITTLE
We’ve all heard it said: “The worst thing about success is a little bit of it.”
This is another mindset that can prohibit greater personal success… when we achieve success in one area of life, our momentarily inflated egos like to assume complete success in life. This simply isn’t true!
I have seen fat rich guys.
I have seen dumb fit guys.
I have seen pretty girls who could use some schooling, and some brilliant ladies who need to stay away from the buffet.
I’ve seen spiritual men who could not find financial success if it set in their lap, and rich men who will gain the whole world only to lose their soul!
I have sold myself short far too many times, thinking more highly of myself than I should have been thinking, when I should have pressed onward toward bigger and better things. I have learned that one victory is just that: one victory! There are more battles yet to be won against ourselves.
So, if you have found success in one area of life, Congratulations!
If you haven’t found success in every area of life, Keep Going! Keep changing! Keep Learning!
Most of all, take personal responsibility for where you are in life. Because you can’t grow forward until you do.
I see some of you bowing to Fear and calling it Faith!
“What do you mean, Nate?”
Here’s what I mean:
I see so many people starting out on a Journey toward their dreams, and as soon as it becomes difficult…or interferes with the family schedule…they QUIT!
And here’s the worse part of all: they then decide that their current life is dreamy enough!
STOP LYING TO YOURSELF!
*Your life wasn’t too dreamy on the front end of the journey, what you believed anything was possible! Is it more comfortable to believe that the dream isn’t possible? KEEP TELLING YOURSELF THAT ONE! lol
*Your life wasn’t too dreamy when you decided you didn’t want to work long hours, and maybe even Saturdays any more. Oh…do the extra hours suddenly feel great?
*Your life wasn’t too dreamy when you envisioned your wife not having to work (and now the 2 of you have convinced yourselves it’s not so bad) What happened? Is it awesome for both of you to be exhausted all the time?
*Your life wasn’t too dreamy when you were ANGRY at debt! What happened? Did you and debt fall back into dreamy love?
*Your life wasn’t too dreamy when YOU finally WOKE UP and realized that YOU were NOT in CONTROL! Does it all the sudden feel great to be SLAVE to the Masters of DEBT, J.O.B., Time Constraint, and Limited Choice?
If your Old Life was the Dream in the First Place, YOU WOULD’VE NEVER STARTED THE JOURNEY!
So you can try to lie to YOU…you can try to lie to your SPOUSE…you can try to lie to your KIDS…and you can try to lie to ME!
But in the end…it’s just a lie. And you know it. We all know it.
I love you & I believe in you! Maybe more than you do yourself. Selah: pause and think about that.
In his book, “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” T. Harv Eker introduces the concept that each of us has been groomed into our individual belief systems concerning money by external sources of reference. Our friends, family members, talking heads from the media, etc., all have their place in the landscape of our individually tailored “financial blueprint.”
But here’s the problem: most of us have either incomplete or misinformed ideas concerning money BECAUSE our paradigms have been informed by the “friends & family” around us, who have misconceived paradigms of their own.
Eker identifies seventeen components of the Financial Paradigm of the Rich, and sets them in juxtaposition with the Paradigms of the Middle Class and the Poor. Read through each couplet carefully, and prepare to rate yourself on a scale of 1-5 to see whether YOUR Financial Paradigm is more closely associated with the Wealthy or Poor.
- Rich people believe: “I create my life.” Poor people believe: “Life happens to me.”
- Rich people play the money game to win. Poor people play the money game to not lose.
- Rich people are committed to being rich. Poor people want to be rich.
- Rich people think big. Poor people think small.
- Rich people focus on opportunities. Poor people focus on obstacles.
- Rich people admire other rich and successful people. Poor people resent rich and successful people.
- Rich people associate with positive, successful people. Poor people associate with negative or unsuccessful people.
- Rich people are willing to promote themselves and their value. Poor people think negatively about selling and promotion.
- Rich people are bigger than their problems. Poor people are smaller than their problems.
- Rich people are excellent receivers. Poor people are poor receivers.
- Rich people choose to get paid based on results. Poor people choose to get paid based on time.
- Rich people think “both”. Poor people think “either/or”.
- Rich people focus on their net worth. Poor people focus on their working income.
- Rich people manage their money well. Poor people mismanage their money well.
- Rich people have their money work hard for them. Poor people work hard for their money.
- Rich people act in spite of fear. Poor people let fear stop them.
- Rich people constantly learn and grow. Poor people think they already know.
Now that you’ve read through the differences between the wealthy and the poor, and their thinking patterns, rate yourself on each of the 17 on a scale between 1-5. Score a “1” if you think like the Poor, and a “5” if you think like the Rich on each of the 17 items. Then tally your overall score, and see how you rate below!
85+ Checks are already flowing in from passive income! Congrats!!
75+ The bank account will be filling up any day now
65+ You’ve educated yourself, you are free of debt, and wealth building vehicles are being put into place as we speak.
55+ Might be a good idea to attend a personal development seminar, or even get yourself a Life Architect!
45+ Read the books! Read ALL the books on personal growth, mindset, people skills, etc. that you can get your hands on!
35+ Don’t plan on be Rich any time soon! Or EVER if you don’t turn things around NOW!!!
25+ You need economic surgery!
25- You need full on financial CPR. Somebody grab the paddles and shock your mindset FAST!! CLEAR!!!!! (come on…come on…don’t flat line on me…)
My hope and prayer is that you get your mindset where it needs to be. If you do, the economic stuff will follow. All the best! -Nate